Goals that Work

Written by Julie Silfverberg

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Goals are something everybody talks about all the time when considering achieving. 

Sometimes people are reluctant to set goals almost as if they think they are setting themselves up to fail! And the funny thing is if you are not willing to fail, your goals may be a bit 'wishy washy' - the sort that are not going to stretch you.  If your goals are not stretching you, you might find they are not very exciting or motivating either. 

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You might even wonder well what is the point!

So setting a goal is a finely balanced point between being in the comfort zone - the 'ho-hum' slightly bored - yawn - place and the 'aaaagh' overwhelm of the rabbit-in-the-headlights stuck place.

So you are looking for a goal that stretches and excites you and gets your motivation all revved up. The 'let me at it' place. Then you know you are going to take action, do what ever it takes and go all out to achieve this goal. Knowing even if you don't achieve your goal this time you did everything you could. You learned a lot on the way. You didn't fail because you know you are closer and you know so much more now. Interesting.....?

Suggestion alert!

For the next month experiment:

1. Learn to notice when you consider a goal;

• Are you aware of your emotions in relation to this goal.
• If you are aware; what are they?
  • 'Ho-hum'
  • 'Aaagh' or
  • 'Oh! That's a bit of a stretch'
• If you are not aware:
•         Tune in to yourself and start to notice, this may take a little practice.
  

2. Ask yourself a couple of questions:

• If you were to fail at this goal what is the worst thing that could happen? Could you live with that?
  
• If you were to fail at this goal what can you learn from it. How would that benefit you?
  

How easy is it for you to accept failure as a normal natural element within the learning cycle?Think about Edison and his persistance in learning how to make the light bulb stay lighting. Think about a child learning to walk, do thy fall down and decide that's it I'm not going to do this any more? NO. They get right back up and give it another go, no matter how many times they go plop.

Forget school's learning concept - that failing is somehow a bad thing....simply let that go.

Just experiment, play with your goal and discover what happens. I'd love to know....

Have fun and enjoy.